Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Updates and Emotions

October 3rd, 2012
27 weeks 1 day

It's been quiet a while since I've written either on here, and even longer since I have written in the journal I've been keeping for the boys. Life has just gotten a little hectic, but I really need to get better about it. I want to have things for them to read when they get older.

I had my 1 hour glucose test back two weeks ago, it really wasn't bad at all. I opted for a Lemon-Lime flavor, since I hate Orange flavored anything. Pretty much tasted like a sugary Sprite. I felt a little dizzy towards the end, and had a horrible headache afterwards from the sugar. But I passed, thankfully. Me, give up chocolate and all things sweet? HA! You've got to be kidding me. No worries, there! The following Thursday, the 19th, I ended up back in L&D around midnight or so. I was having contractions that were 10 minutes apart, water and laying down weren't offering any sort of solution. We got in pretty quickly, and thankfully the wonderful nurses were able to get them to stop and thankfully I wasn't starting active labor. These babies need to cook a lot longer before they are able to arrive.

We had our appointment with our MFM yesterday, at 27 weeks on the dot. They did a cervix check and a growth scan. Baby A is weighing in at 1 pound 14 ounces, and Baby B is weighing in at 2 pounds 4 ounces. We are back up to a 17% growth discrepancy, but they aren't worried about it at the moment - at least that's what they say. There aren't any signs of TTTS (twin to twin transfusion) and it isn't likely that it would develop this late. We got a great picture of Baby B looking at us and you can tell a HUGE weight difference from their 23 week growth scan and yesterdays. He looks like my little gummy baby.

I'm really starting to look VERY pregnant. I really need to post some pictures on here, Erik is horrible about taking pictures - I have to beg practically for him to take one, and then another because the first one looks horrible. Then it ends in me being mad. Just not a good combination I suppose. I'm really feeling the babies move more and more, and I absolutely just love it. I could sit all day long and feel my belly and feel them move. It's one of the most amazing feelings in the world, at least I think so. It makes every heartburn, ache and pain so completely worth it.

We took the boys to their first concert last Thursday, the 27th, to see Brad Paisley, The Band Perry, and Scotty Mccuery. The USO was giving away free tickets to active duty military, which was awesome! I love free tickets and country music. The boys were kicking up a storm the entire time Brad Paisley was on stage. They're definitely going to be mommy's little country boys.

Otherwise things have been quiet here, truthfully I haven't been in the mood to have it any other way. I've been feeling quiet anxious and sad lately. I'm sure it's pregnancy hormones, but either way. I just feel so alone lately. Erik is gone at nights now, and I'm realizing quickly that the friends I have here, aren't like the friends I had back home (it isn't like I have hardly a friend back home any how anymore.. things change when you move away). Back home friends came over, hung out and just chatted with you. Here - it's more of a coffee date once a week and text messaging. Which is better than nothing - and I do like the friends that I have made. It's just... not what I need or what I'm used to. I don't know - this funk isn't hardly fun at all. I honestly just feel sad, it's like this pity party feeling I can't shake. I don't want to be back in Virginia Beach, but I miss certain aspects of it. I miss the environment more than anything I suppose, people are just different here. I just feel.. alone.

I don't know if it's that I miss having family near by, or that everyone and their mother who finds out we are expecting twins ask the question about who we will have to help us or makes a comment about "Oh, you're going to need a LOT of help!". I seriously could scream if I hear that remark one more time. I'm really looking forward to Erik and I having the boys and handling parenthood. We're going to learn so much about each other, and we're going to have to rely on each other and I think that's going to make our relationship a lot closer than we ever imagined. I'm looking forward to having a few weeks with it being just us and the boys before we have company/visitors. I want to be able to recover on my own and not have to worry about having people around. But my heart hurts when I see pictures of family visiting newborns in the hospital, because we don't have that luxury. The nurses and other soon to be parents at our hospital tours were talking about family visiting and I just had to tune it out completely.. we won't have visitors. It'll be Erik and I. I don't even know what we are going to do with Jade at this point in time. I don't trust hardly anyone with her, and I don't want to have friends over who are going to discipline my dog. It's going to be hard for her too. I've got a bazillion thoughts running through my mind, a million things to get done, and I just feel alone.

Here's to hoping better days are around the corner..

Thursday, September 13, 2012

A little secret

September 13th, 2012
24 weeks 2 days

I have a little secret, or rather confession that I should probably let out in the open by now. I was telling Erik about it last night and while I don't think vocalizing it will change how I feel, it'll be nice to have it out in the open. I'm not sure why exactly I feel this way, but I do think it's a common feeling many mom-to-be's have.

So, the secret - I really, really wish I could keep my babies in my tummy forever. Not because I'm super comfortable, I'm starting to get to the point where I am becoming uncomfortable. It isn't because I want to feel their kicks forever, I do love feeling them move and kick! But because I don't want to share them!! Obviously, I will love sharing them with Erik. But, I just don't want to share them with anyone else. Plus, I feel like as long as they are in my belly (anyone else say that in the Fat Bastard "Get in my Belly" voice? Nope.. just me.. okay, moving on then.) As long as they are in my belly, they are protected and safe from anything and everything. Nothing can hurt them, no one can say mean things to them, they can't fall down and scrap their knees, and they can be protected from all the violence going on in the world.

There wasn't really a "trigger" or a cause to why I feel this way, I just do. It wasn't caused by the recent events going on in Lybia, Yemen, or anywhere else (I feel like this is still an up and rising story and things are changing so fast.) But those events do not certainly give me the warm fuzzy feeling. It is becoming extremely terrifying almost that there is so much violence and hate going on in the world. It's all well out of anyone's control and all we can do is pray about it. Thankfully, Erik isn't at risk for deploying and I truly count my blessings and lucky stars for that. I know there are so many military families who are just waiting for that call that might/might not come any day now.

I just worry about everything now. I worry about when my boys are older having to explain what happened on September 11th, 2001 when so many innocent people lost their lives in a horrid act of terrorism. I worry about having to explain to them why their Daddy is going away for deployments. I worry about the future, the uncertainty that our country faces right now. I worry about so many things. I truly know deep down, that all of this is out of my control, I have no control over any of my worries. I know worrying won't solve anything and that I just need to truly place my faith in God and He will make sure we are all alright.

But I still worry, I was thinking about the future last night, and the idea of passing my babies to someone else to hold gives me almost some sort of anxiety. I don't want them to snuggle with anyone but me and Erik. Is that selfish? Yeah, it is. Do I care? Nope, not at all. They are my little boys.  I'm sure these feelings and emotions will change when I've been awake for 20 hours and they are still screaming but right now, I'm okay with that. I think it's a normal feeling for any mother, especially a first time mom-to-be to have.

I know the day will come when they will make their appearance, and the day will come where I will share them with family and friends. But until then.. I am going to just enjoy having them all to myself and enjoy having them in my belly.

Wednesday, September 5, 2012

Beat the 1 pound mark!

September 5th, 2012
23 weeks 1 day

We had an appointment this morning with our MFM and found out the babies are much closer together! And they've broken the pound mark! Our little ones are 1 pound 1 oz and 1 pound 2 oz and I couldn't be more thrilled! (aside from knowing that 2 pounds of my weight is their weight!) I'm just grateful they are doing great and cooking well! We will continued to be monitored closely for TTTS (twin to twin transfusion syndrome) and my cervix continues to be checked every two weeks. It was nice and long today and my MFM said I don't show any signs of preterm labor! Yay!

Baby A 23 weeks 1 day - 1 pound 1 oz

Baby B 23 weeks 1 day - 1 pound 2 oz
 
I'm still in a funk and waiting for pictures to be uploaded from the baby shower so I will update with that soon. Otherwise, things are quite again in our home. I'm trying to figure out how to organize the nursery, and I'm itching to start. I'm almost positive I will reorganize it a million times before they make their arrival - but I will love every minute of it.
 
1 more week till V day!! (Viability day! 24 weeks!)

Monday, September 3, 2012

Sad

September 3, 2012
22 Weeks 6 Days

I have another post I should be writing, one about our amazing weekend with our families who came down and visited with us and about the wonderful baby shower I was thrown. But I have a few other things on my mind right now that I need to get out in the open.

I think it's really hitting me that we're truly on our own, in every aspect. Our families are over ten hours away from us and we don't get to see them often, and when we do it never feels long enough. All of my friends who have had children have had their families within a thirty minute drive of them, so there was plenty of support and helping hands. We don't have that luxury, and it isn't because family doesn't want to, but because we are just far away. It isn't like a day trip, or even a three day weekend trip that's easy to make.

For the past year and half that we've lived here, I've never really missed being super close to family. I've enjoyed my privacy, and my independence. The move was a wonderful growing experience for myself and for Erik and I. We've learned how to completely just rely on one another and get through things without running home to mom and dad to complain about the other person. I actually would say that I loved living further away. But after family left last night, I'm just so sad.

I'm sad I guess because I know that I won't be seeing most of them until the boy's are here, which truthfully is a bit overwhelming. I'm also sad because I know this is such a huge life changing event and no one is really around to be here for it. I know it really is just life changing for Erik and I, but it would be nice to have family nearby. I'm sad that I won't have my mom close by to help, even though our relationship is very up and down, I'm still sad. I won't be able to just have my mom near when/if I want her. I'm sad our boys will grow up like I did, far away from their Grandparents and Aunts and Uncles. I'm sad that they won't be near by to play with future cousins and be close with them.

I knew this would happen, because of our life style. I knew that the military would keep us away from family. But I guess I never really grasped that my children will grow up like I did. Not that there is anything wrong with how I grew up. But it's not fun being far away from family, it isn't exciting to go on 10-12 hour car rides to see Grandparents. It isn't fun to have your daddy deployed. When I said I would never marry a military man, it wasn't because I thought they were bad guys, it's because I know what it is like to grow up in that lifestyle. Now, I love Erik with all my heart, and I'm so very proud of what he is doing. There isn't any mistake in that. I wouldn't of wanted to marry any other man. Part of me is just sad and I hope that my sons grow up slightly different than I did. I hope that somehow, some way we can find a way to make it easier with family far away. Skype can only do so much, but I'm really hoping we can figure out ways to keep them close with their extended family.

Maybe I'm just a hormonal mess right now, and I'm sure my pregnancy mood swings aren't helping. I'm sure I will have myself pulled back together in a week or two from now. But.. right now, I can't help but just be sad and overwhelmed about the future and about going through all of these changes without family nearby.

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

And time goes on..

August 23rd, 2012

21 weeks 2 days

Just when I think time will finally slow down, it doesn't. I've finished out this summer semester, and decided not to return for the fall semester. That was a hard decision to come to, because I really didn't want to stop. But knowing that bedrest could be in my future, and not wanting to go on campus to take tests at 37 weeks pregnant, I knew it was what is best for me and the babies.

We've been working hard around the house getting things together (finally) and prettying things up before family comes into town. Last week I had Erik painting our guest bathroom. It ended up being an adventure. Our Ace paint was giving away free quarts of paint. Well.. we figured that it would only take 2 quarts of paint to paint it completely. And being right between two Ace's we figured we'd try to do it for free. (I know, I know tisk.. tisk) Well we asked for 'Greek Column' at both Ace's - well one Ace gave us the right color, and the other... didn't. They gave us the shade darker. But we ended up mixing them together and liked it.. and ended up being a quart shy to finish. So I had to go back and they wouldn't mix it for us, so I had to buy two quarts. All in all it came out perfectly, and we have a funny story behind it. Last weekend, I pulled all the weeds and dead flowers out of the backyard garden bed. We're heading to the nursery this weekend to get some fall flowers - I want it all pretty when everyone comes in to town. That's just how I am.

In baby news, we get to see them via ultrasound quite often, every two weeks. We found out at our twenty week appointment with my high risk dr (MFM) that Baby B is 21% bigger than Baby A. Which is a cause for concern, they don't want one baby stealing all the nutrients from the placenta. There really isn't anything they can do but to do another growth check every 4 weeks and see if the size difference is increasing or decreasing and just to monitor closely for twin to twin transfusion syndrome. It was so great to see my babies! I absolutely love seeing them move around so much on the screen. Although, I felt really bad that I enjoyed it so much when my ultrasound tech was getting exhausted from trying to get the measurements she needed. They just wouldn't let her have them! We love seeing our babies that's for sure. But after finding out that information, I got pretty serious on my diet and I hope it helps. I've upped my protein a LOT, I drink at least two protein shakes a day and eat a protein bar. I've also realized it's okay to rest when I need to and I don't deprive myself of any naps. So I'm really hoping there is less of a size difference at the beginning of September when we go back.
Oh! I can also feel my baby boys kicking in there now! It's seriously one of the most amazing feelings in the whole wide world. Indescribable. I could just sit on the couch and feel them and have no desire to watch TV or do anything else, I find myself just getting sucked into my own little world. The past two mornings that I've woken up, shortly after I feel them kicking around as if to tell me "Mommy it's time to get up now" it's such a great way to wake up in the morning, and I love it.

August 28th, 2012
22 Weeks

I've been so busy trying to get the house ready for our family to visit that I completely forgot to finish up my last post!! Oopps! Can I blame this one on pregnancy brain?

Lets see, this past weekend we cleaned up the garden in the backyard, and oh my goodness does it look fantastic! We decided we wanted to go the nursery route rather than Home Depot/Lowe's. We just aren't impressed with their help in the flower section. So. We did it. We went to two nurseries and explained that we wanted to put some hardy, low maintenance flowers, that would either stay around year long or come back. And we wanted to get the most bang for our buck. And for about $80.00 we did it. It costed us way more last time going the Home Depot route, and they all died off and lasted maybe 4 months max. So I'm really impressed. We have butterflies that visit our garden now and it's nice to look out their to see pretty flowers! How can that not brighten your day?!

I picked up things for my hostess gifts this past weekend as well, I'm doing a chocolate basket for my SIL since she is a huge chocolate person and I took my friend Amanda who is co-hosting, out to get a pedicure and I got her her favorite lotion/body wash scent from Bath and Body Works as well as a Starbucks mug and a VIA refresher package. I really hope they both like them. It means a lot that they are throwing me a shower, because I never really thought I would have one. Especially living so far away.

Today we are having a local maid come by and deep clean the house for us, so I don't have to!! She's actually here now and honestly this is the best investment/treat I have ever given myself!! All I have to do tomorrow is steamvac our living room. I'll resweep Thursday morning. But I am so beside myself right now. Honestly, money very well spent!

We had a bit of an adventure on Monday. I had been having some cramps that I thought were just RLP (round ligament pain - your ligaments in your lower hip area have to stretch to support and make room for the baby, or babies in my case) well I took a shower and long story short I thought I was leaking fluid. So I called my OB and they got me in right away. All the tests came back negative for leaking fluid. Both babies heart rates were fantastic. Baby A was at 157 bpm and Baby B was at 153 bpm. We saw them on the ultrasound for a few minutes to check the fluid levels. My OB was a tad concerned about the cramping so they sent me to our hospital for fetal monitoring. Turns out I was having very small irregular contractions. I ended up getting some fluids and a shot to make them stop and we went home. What a scare! I'm just so happy they are okay and still baking in there!

Other than that, things have been relatively quiet around here. Just making progression in the house and decorating/painting more. It's nice to have two solid rooms done. The nursery will get finished up next and eventually the office and master bedroom. Definitely a work in progress.

Time to finish up some work and run some errands! Till next time!

Monday, August 13, 2012

Time is flying by!

August 13th, 2012

19 weeks 6 days

Life has been so crazy busy lately, and time seems to be flying by fast! Which is definitely a change of pace. We had our appointment two weeks ago with our new OB, well the new office, and had our Anatomy scan done and everything was perfectly healthy with both babies! We found out we're expecting two little boys! We're over the top thrilled! We went and registered for the baby showers two weekends ago and then last weekend we painted the nursery and put together the cribs and changing tables! It's so exciting to get things done and see them put together in the nursery!

Baby A and Baby B - 17 weeks 1 day. 

Last Monday our car seats arrived, they were a gift from Erik's mom. My breast feeding pillow also arrived, I chose the My Brest Friend, Double Twins Deluxe thanks to some wonderful recommendations from other moms of multiples, or MoM's. That also arrived. I'm so grateful and excited we got the nursery and the cribs/changing table put together. It's starting to look full in there, I can only imagine how much more full it will be. I'm just glad we can put things in there for them, without having to worry about where we will put the cribs together at, might not seem like a big deal to others but Erik and I do NOT get along when moving furniture. I get the heeby jeebies just thinking about it... ekkk! We also went to a consignment shop, unplanned, last weekend while out and about and I found a $5 pair of Old Navy maternity jeans - ohhhh the comfort!

We have two appointments this week, one tomorrow with our regular OB and one Wednesday with our MFM, which is the Maternal Fetal Medicine Specialist - my high risk doctor. I'm hoping for another ultrasound to see our baby boys, just because I love seeing them. I'm sure they are going to want to check my cervix length and such.

In other news, Erik and I are joining a Parents of Multiples group here in our area! I think it's going to be a great idea, and a great way to meet other parents and get advice, not to mention make friends and have play dates for the babies.

I can't get over how fast time is flying by! My goodness it's already August! My baby shower is at the very beginning of September, the 2nd. I'm super excited only because I never thought I would actually get to have a baby shower! I know many people won't be there, and it'll really just be a few friends I have here and my sister in laws and the new Grandma's. But I think it'll still be fun. I'm wanting to get pedicures done with my one sister in law who is helping to plan it and then my friend who is also planning it. I'd really like it if my other two sister in laws came and my mom and MIL but I don't know what they all have planned. So - we'll see.

Erik started painting our guest bathroom this morning, and after a funny with the paint it'll be finished up tomorrow. We opted for a grey color, I think it'll lighten up the room more, and it's neutral enough to change out the feel of it and is on the 'boyish' color scale. It will also be the boys' bathroom. The only thing I really need to figure out in there is the storage, I've been using it for coupon storage (stockpiled items) so I really need to figure that out or take over a shelving unit in the Garage for that. We'll see. I'm in this phase right now where everything needs to be organized, painted, cleaned and pretty. I think part of myself is preparing to be on bedrest and knowing I won't be able to do much to help with preparing so - I want it done now. If that makes sense.

I've started to feel little kicks over the past few weeks, and I absolutely love it!! I get so excited every time I feel it, or feel the little flutters of them moving around. Seriously, it's the most amazing feeling in the entire world.

Here is to another week, and to being half way through this pregnancy!! I can't believe how fast it's gone by!

Thursday, June 28, 2012

Dr, Dr, Dr..

So yesterday I was just a basketfull of emotions. I woke up in a relatively good mood and then BAM! I was a grouch. I could of ripped off someone's head if I really wanted to. And it started for no particular reason. And then throughout the day just little things annoyed me until Erik went to work. I like having time to myself I'm realizing. Quiet time to work and listen to music. Time to wake up, time to just breathe. So when my husband goes to work, I get that.

We also recieved some news yesterday about the twins and the ultrasound on Monday. The purpose of the ultrasound was to date them to see how they were growing, and to see if they share a placenta - and they do. Which means they are mono/di twins. They are in seperate sacs, so that is a relief. They are definitely identical twins, so we will be having either 2 little boys or 2 little girls. Because they are mono/di twins, we were referred out from base because they don't have the care that we need. Mono/Di means higher risk - because they share the placenta it can cause Intrauternine growth restriction on one of the twins, it isn't promised, but it's a possibility.

The news gave me a slight breakdown. Being raised as a military child I never had to chose my Dr before, and had really good luck. Being a military wife, I didn't chose my Dr or OB care - as it was all on base in the Naval Hospital and had great care so far. So... now I had to pick a Dr for the most important care I would and my babies would recieve! Talk about being overwhelmed! Not to mention our Naval Hospital offered some great classes I wanted to take advantage of, esp the breastfeeding one! So double freak out. Well - it turns out because it wasn't my choice to go out in town for OB care - I can still take advantage of everything on base, especially since my children will be recieving care there as well.

So the taunting Dr search - I looked and looked and looked for hours yesterday and today. And after a slight breakdown, some phone calls to other offices, I think I found the Dr I would like to use. I do have two recommendations for back ups just in the off chance we don't get along so that's good news. I was able to make my new appointment, and will be seen by the new Dr in just about 3 weeks. Phewww!!!

Now I can focus on schoolwork, ordering a book for a class that starts very, very soon. Math homework and housework. Oh and seeing our babies again tomorrow at our NT Scan. Busy time to decide to go back to school, huh? Oh well... life doesn't ever get put on hold I suppose.